I bet if you could challenge yourself to read this every morning and soak it in, you might find your priorities need a tune-up. Maybe even your friendslist
My goal is to help you get clarity with the clutter and focus on your life’s mission which will free up all of your time to be who you are meant to be, live with more energy, vitality, and passion, and feel less like a hamstring injury.
Make sure you strategically plan the lessons you need to be done for the week on
the right day. If the laundry room is packed on Monday nights, then do Laundry
on Wednesday. Plan your outfits if you can. Don’t stress. Get yourself a watch with
a timer, and make sure you know your three jobs before starting.
-Grocery shopping: 35-45mn 1. Get pop 2. Get dairy 3. Get paper towels. Tackle
those aisles first. Use the remaining time to shop for the rest. Shopping can cause anxiety for a lot of people. I am not good with math or deals, so it’s easier for me to
use Amazon Fresh or Walmart.Com to get my groceries where I can boldly see the
values on the app right in front of me. Getting things for sale, discount, or on
clearance is the best way to go. Everything ends up cheap at some point.
-Working: split-shift 5 hours: tasks for that day. Human beings are most effective
within the first 6 hours of the waking day /work shift. It’s entirely possible to have
a four-day workweek or a 5-hour workday. It’s about making sure the time spent
at work is just ON work. We wouldn’t need to be at work for 8 hours if everyone
did their jobs adequately and promptly. Studies show that we perform better with
fewer hours and more vigilant work, and shorter workweeks. You don’t need to sit
at your desk and doodle; that’s unproductive.
-If you work from home, SET A SCHEDULE. Change it up however you like.
Sometimes I work 9 pm-3 am. It’s about making sure you get Quality sleep, at least
5 hours of daily work, and enough days off.
-Every week, you should significantly improve your career journey and your
mental one if you adhere to reading and improving emotional intelligence tasks.
-Nothing is a more notable waste oflife than misusing your time. Days are limited,
life is changeable, “if you’re bored, then you’re boring.” If you avoid all your tasks,
then perhaps you aren’t on the correct career path, aren’t taking advantage of your
work time, or are not organizing your priorities. If you’re at work, you should do
something anyway instead of staring at a screen; it might as well be helpful.
-Zero to do. You can always read. Except, of course, you understand absolutely
everything about everything, then you’re fine. I don’t know anyone who knows
everything about everything but never say never. I don’t know everything; I don’t
think you do, either. Teach yourself something. Be your educator. If you aren’t
thinking critically, it’s because you don’t feel like you’re performing essential
obligations. At the end of each day, if all duties are finished, measure how you
think. If you see negative consistencies in emotions, you need to change
something in your life.
If you are sad every day and can’t figure out why, look at who and what you did
that day and what made you upset. If you have no real reason, it could very well be
that you aren’t satisfied with your career. To be happy, one must feel like we are
achieving something, going forward, and helping others. If you don’t think or feel
these three things, you’re likely growing close-minded and have already
considered a more worthy career path. I can’t tell you enough that you need to quit
your job if you hate it. 365 days (about 12 months) = 1 year. Do you have how many
good years are left? One second shouldn’t be wasted doing things that don’t help
ANYONE, including you.
Stop blaming other people for your problems. Even if someone is wrong, it doesn’t
matter. Blaming people is saying you have no intention of fixing this problem. You
want to vent and have someone else take care of it. This causes drama. No one is
ever going to agree with you completely, and everyone has different opinions. If
You want to go far in life; sometimes, your best-confined friend is yourself.
Don’t let others step on your goals before you’re done creating them. If you’re
positive you want to try a new career path, and you know deep down you can do it,
then do it without the approval of others. The result and your success will show for
themselves. Keep your ideas to yourself. It sounds counterintuitive to what we’ve
been told, but too many opinions weighing in often results in nothing getting
accomplished. By you, at least. Someone else might take your idea in the
A Different Way to View Your Conversations;
Become Trustworthy to Someone
If a co-worker or friend is speaking to you or telling you a story about their life. Sit dora, shut up. and do
Third-party perspectives: if you were a bystander seeing yourself, what do you
think? This lines up with empathy. To communicate effectively, you genuinely
need to take yourself out of your shoes and put them in a stranger’s. The third-
party perspective is usually used when interacting with others. What three things
should you do in every interaction?
Listen, like. Don’t think about what you’re going to say until that person has said
their piece. We can understand information and process it over TWICE as fast as
we can speak. It’s easy to interrupt people, but you can’t. You don’t understand
their end goal, so don’t race with them to win the conversation. They have their
intentions and their reasons for even telling you everything they’re telling you.
Don’t volunteer advice except if asked. Don’t advise if you don’t know the answer.
Google is at the palm of your hands for every conversation.
Take a couple of seconds to register whatever message was given. Can you
sympathize with this character? How would you feel if you were them? That
doesn’t mean apologizing for everything. It means equaling a human and sensing
what others may be undergoing (only enough to be effective) over sympathizing
is not productive. (Remember, you are NOT that person, and it is ISNT happening
to you, but be considerate, as if it could and were happening to you. It makes you
a better listener and conversationalist. We can all identify with certain emotions.
Most people at any given time feel Happy, Sad, Worried, Anxious, Angry,
Depressed, Lonely, Lost, Tired, Bored, Excited, Unsure, Scared, Exhausted,
Depleted, Thrilled, or Emotional. Think of times when you have felt that way; it doesn’t even have to be the same situation, just the same feeling. -Note in your
mind that they are experiencing that exact feeling right now. Everyone in this
world has feelings unless noted by a psychiatric professional. You might not want
to talk to those people at all.
Now you’ve listened and you’ve decided how they feel, you have recognized how
that feeling might be sitting with them by remembering a time you felt that way.
You have been assessed as a third-party stranger; now you can think of your
response. Try to keep conversations under 3 minutes; if you don’t know what to
say- admit that, or don’t say anything. If it’s concerning work, make sure you are
correct with your answer. Don’t act, just do.
Do just that in 3 minutes. Spending too much time on everyone is as bad as
spending no time with someone. If you have one hour to talk to 2 people. Be fair;
get to the point without being brash.
IF YOU DON’T KNOW SOMETHING, DON’T
PRETEND YOU DO.
Reading a sentence in a book about a subject does not make you an expert. It makes
you dangerous. Most often, there are more to issues than we just want to read
about. You can’t stop Kujo before the ending, or you will see the movie differently
than it is.
Pretending to be an expert on something or acting like something you think is a
fact when you aren’t sure if it has one name: Lying.
When someone seeks advice and gives them advice that’s not proper, you could be
leaving them in a dire situation or causing harm to them.
It drags out the issue and confuses everyone.
How to tell a client you don’t know something without seeming unintelligent or
Phrases that I find helpful:
“I apologize. I don’t want to give you a Non-answer I truly don’t know the answer
and need to do x, y, and z to get you the answer you need.
“I can see how frustrating this is to you, and I empathize. I want to make sure Im
guiding you in the right direction, so I need to consult with x, y, z to be helpful.”
Would it be okay if I call you back or if I contact you a little bit later? I want to
investigate this more so I can make sure your situation is handled properly.
IN A DISPUTE
Do not raise your voice or swear, and don’t allow others to yell at you or swear. It’s
not acceptable or right whether at work or home. Swearing is a sign of stupidity
and a lack of proper education.
Would you please not swear at someone or tell them they are unreasonable? Ask,
“how can I help this situation? How can I help you.
Tell the person as calmly as possible that you do not tolerate or help people if they
are swearing at you. To avoid saying that if it’s terrible, do a quick brb and get your
manager because you cannot fix this at that point.
With, if you try every method, you’ll end up back at the beginning. There is no way to
“cheat” the system when it comes to being productive and developing good. The only way
to cheat is to do it the right way; most people don’t consider this. Practices are EASILY
built if they are correctly structured and have achievable milestones and an achievable
completion date. Everything else is just an idea or a thought. Turn that thought into action
by taking the first step. The very first small step.
My MS Fight: 2009. https://mymsfight.blogspot.com/2009/